Well, by now the news is out and you know the biggest secret I’ve ever kept! I’M PREGNANT!!! Surprise! You have no idea how happy I am to be typing these words for the world to read! This has been such a tough secret to keep since I basically tell you guys everything!

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If you read the blog post previous to this, then you know I spent a large chunk of this summer off of social media. The truth is, it was because I was pregnant! I had zero energy or motivation to take pretty pictures and let alone share them with inspirational words. It was extremely hard to keep my cool and not completely blow my cover. Was I that obvious?! Lol. Either way, I am just over the moon happy to have finally shared the news with you guys.

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In classic Devon Jade nature, I will be blogging about my whole experience starting with this post! I will also be doing posts for each trimester and anything that strikes some inspo in my mind!

For this post I am just covering the basic question I’ve been getting but will go into more detail in later posts.

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I’m Pregnant!!!

We have been slowly spilling the beans to family and close friends over the last month and I’m so glad I get to share this news with you. I’ve also been getting a lot of the same questions that I’m sure most first-time moms receive so I thought I’d answer them in one big blog post!

Did you plan this or was it a surprise?

I’m not sure why people care but they do, and we have gotten this question a ton. YES, this pregnancy was 110% planned!!! And I think whether it was planned or not, Mark and I would be thrilled either way because we have always talked about having kids since we first met.

How far along are you/when are you due?

At the moment as I’m typing this I am 10 weeks pregnant. However, when I share the news and this post I will be 11 weeks! Baby Devine is due early February! (An Aquarius like me)!

How did you find out?

There’s a little back story to this which I already plan on writing a whole blog post going into more detail buuuut the short story is…I was seeing the doctor for a follow-up exam because I had a miscarriage about a month prior to the visit. It was routine to take a pregnancy test for my appointment and surprise, I was pregnant (about 4 weeks when I found out)! Although finding out this way was quite the surprise, we were trying so we were, of course, hoping for good news!

How did you tell your husband?

Like I mentioned above, I was at the doctor’s so Mark was at work when I found out. I had to stop at Target on the way home, so I picked up a card and put the results inside. I gave it to him as soon as he got home and we both were soooooo happy! I decided to keep it between us because after going through what we already went through, it’s hard to not want to hold your breath. I have a video from our first pregnancy and his reaction was priceless- and he was still just as excited the second time around. I can’t wait to see him as a dad!

Are you hoping for a boy or a girl?

This seems to be another common question. Obviously, we want a baby that is happy and healthy! I think there are amazing benefits to having either gender and we cannot wait!

Are you finding out the gender?

YES. Are you kidding?! This mama does not have patience to wait until February- I want to know NOW!!!

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That sums up the most common questions we’ve gotten asked so far! I have been getting many questions about my first trimester and I will be writing a whole blog post answering those questions separately! Until then, THANK YOU sooo much for all the love and support!!!

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24 Things I Learned While Planning My Wedding

Yesterday officially marked ONE full month that Mark and I have been married…WHAT?!?! I can’t believe it’s been that long already considering it still feels like it just happened yesterday! It feels absolutely amazing to be married and finally starting our lives as husband and wife.

Although we didn’t have a traditional wedding, click here to read all about it, we still did a lot of wedding planning and got a real taste of what wedding planning is truly like. Today I am sharing everything I learned in this crazy process of wedding planning.

These are things I learned while in the process and not everyone will have the same experience as me. So, with that said, please be kind and understand we all lead different lives and have different expectations!

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24 Things I Learned

While Planning My Wedding

  1. There are A LOT of different options which makes decision making extremely hard.
  2. Even though you’ll probably change your mind 5638745 times, going in with a plan/idea in mind will help you out tremendously.
  3. You WILL change your mind about something, or everything.
  4. Take your time- there’s no rush to tie the knot!
  5. Save money!!! This may sound obvious, especially if you’re paying for it all like Mark and I did, but even if your wedding is paid for I still suggest saving money.
  6. You will learn who your true friends are. You know how people said this when you graduated high school and went to college? Well I think it’s more relatable when you’re getting married.
  7. Be yourself. Seriously. Don’t compare your wedding ideas to someone else’s because it’ll ruin any expectations you have. Besides, your wedding will never be/look the same as theirs.
  8. Shop around for venues, photographers, catering, etc. While the first one may seem like the perfect fit, it doesn’t hurt to look at all your options to find the very best fit for you and your spouse!
  9. Have fun with it.
  10. Either hire a wedding planner or learn how to be organized yourself because you’ll want to keep track of every address, deposit, thank you card, head count etc.
  11. Take full advantage of testing out the food from caterers and bakeries…who doesn’t love free food?!
  12. Don’t let society or anyone in your life tell you how your big day should be.
  13. Be prepared (as much as you can be) for any weather changes or really anything you can’t control.
  14. Let go, because you CAN’T control it all.
  15. Allow yourself to dream.
  16. At the end of the day, any final decisions made should only matter to you and your fiancé.
  17. It’s super easy to feel guilty when all of your guests aren’t happy but it’s YOUR day so even though they may mean a lot to you, they should be supporting you.
  18. As soon as you say the word wedding prices go up about $100 no matter what you’re purchasing, lol.
  19. Take in every single second of your big day. Seriously. Even if you’ve felt like you took it all in, stand back and take it in some more because it’ll be over in a blink of an eye.
  20. DANCE…a lot.
  21. Don’t listen to people who tell you how your big day is going to be, because chances are it was like that for THEM, not necessarily going to be the same for you. (ex. Everyone told me I wouldn’t have time to eat and I ate all freaking night).
  22. Don’t fret about ruining your shoes or dress because it’s going to happen, especially at any outdoor wedding.
  23. Know your worth, you deserve this day.

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Why My Husband and I Cancelled Our Wedding

I am a huge advocate for following your heart and going with your gut instinct. I believe life is way too short to be doing things that make you unhappy. In this highly judgmental society, we are way too often pushed and pulled in different directions to make friends, family, and even strangers happy. What we don’t realize is, it is making us (generally speaking) unhappy.

It’s easier said than done, I get it. You want to be liked by everyone, you don’t want to disappoint your family, or let down your friends. Reality check, it’s going to happen no matter how hard you try to please everyone. And in the end the only one who will be hurt the most is you. It took me quite a while to fully understand this concept but once I accepted myself and started living for me, it became pretty easy. And since then, I live life by my own rules and I’ve never been happier.

As you probably already know, Mark and I decided to cancel the wedding we were planning for over the last year and get married in our favorite city instead. Of course, everyone invited already knew and we informed them with all of the details, but for everyone else it came as quite the surprise. We immediately got asked a million questions, the most common one being “why?”.  And then it was usually followed up with a “I’m so sorry you had to cancel the wedding.”. First off, stop apologizing. We understand you mean well, but we aren’t sad or upset with the outcome. We didn’t have to cancel the wedding, that was our decision we made. And secondly, we cancelled the wedding because we were following our hearts. We weren’t happy with our original plans, so we made a choice to do what made us happy! And that’s the damn truth.


Why My Husband and I

Cancelled Our Wedding

I would like to preface this blog post by saying this was not written to upset, anger, or confuse anyone. I decided to write this post not only for myself, but to answer the lingering questions so many of you have.

Anyone who has planned a wedding, got married, or is still in the process, you know all of the emotions that come along for the ride. Stress, happiness, indecisiveness, maybe a little anger, bittersweet moments, joy, love…basically every emotion you could possibly feel. Mark and I were over the moon happy to plan our dream wedding and share it with everyone we loved. However, it didn’t always feel like it was reciprocated back to us.

Early 2017, we made a decision to have our wedding in the middle of Glacier National Park, Montana instead of back home on the East Coast. It was like my forest wedding dreams were coming true. It wasn’t an easy decision to make but, if I’m being honest, Mark and I were paying for this whole wedding ourselves (Mark even got a second job specifically for the wedding. S/o to my man!!!). We couldn’t comfortably afford to be flying back to the East Coast to plan a wedding. So, we broke the news to all of our friends and family and couldn’t wait to have them see the place that we now call home. The response when we told everyone the news wasn’t quite what we expected. Almost half of our guest list panicked as to how they were going to get here, how long they would have to stay, upset they had to rearrange their family vacation, etc etc etc. There was more concern than there was excitement. And again, this is in no way calling anyone out or complaining. This is our story.

The wedding wasn’t until several months away so we figured they would come around and get more excited as the date got closer. So, on we went. We booked the most beautiful venue, found a photographer, dj, and even someone to bake us a gluten free, dairy free, egg free wedding cake! We were on a freaking roll!

Everything was going great until in a blink of an eye, it wasn’t. It started with our photographer/graphic designer. We had gotten our engagement photos done in August and were eager to get them back and create our Save The Dates (which we wanted to send out by end of October). November rolls around and we still don’t have our engagement photos (only about 50 of the 200 promised) and we had no Save The Dates even designed! Trying to remain calm we let this little bump in the road pass us by. Unfortunately, that should have been a bright red flag and we didn’t see it. Once the holiday’s passed and we were in the New Year we thought things would change. We were wrong. We didn’t get our Save The Dates mailed until mid December. February comes along and nothing has changed. No engagement photos or no plan to create our invites in the foreseeable future. Not to mention all of the meetings that were planned but then cancelled several times or rearranged only to be again, cancelled.

In the meantime, while all this was going on, we found out a few of Mark’s groomsmen couldn’t make it. No biggie. Easy fix.

I would say at this point we were tossing around the idea to cancel the wedding but still didn’t convince ourselves to actually do it. We had many discussions about it and I shed a lot of tears, lol. Questions started to pop up like, “why are we doing this if no one cares?”, “why are we going to spend all of this hard earned money for no appreciation?”, “are we even going to enjoy this day knowing it’s just the two of us planning and preparing the whole thing?”.

I distinctly remember the night we decided to follow through with the big wedding. I cried a lot that night but I couldn’t let go of the vision I had in my head of me walking down the aisle and seeing Mark. So, again, on we went! That next day I made our registry, we fired our photographer, and went to go look at wedding bands!

The universe decided to throw yet another test our way.

Long story short, Mark got my engagement ring custom made from Zales back home in PA. Part of the diamond bond/insurance plan is I must get it cleaned and inspected every six months. But of course, the only Zales in Montana closed down for good. This put us in a difficult spot when it came time to get my ring cleaned and inspected. We went to Kays and almost had to buy an entire new engagement ring (luckily we didn’t).

That same day, all of Mark’s groomsmen, except one, called and said they couldn’t make it. At that point I had already cancelled the wedding in my head. So, impromptu, within that hour, we cancelled our wedding and planned to have our big day while we were in Chicago!

Now, why did we pick Chicago? Not only did we have a trip planned for March, it is our absolute favorite city. It’s like a second home to us and I fall in love with it every time we go. I’m not going to go into too much detail about how we planned the BEST day ever in just a few short weeks, but I will say this… We have our wonderful friends who live in Chicago to thank. Without them this wouldn’t have been able to happen. They opened up their home to us, showed us around the city, and made are wedding day better than I ever expected. My best friend and her fiancé also flew into the city for the weekend and I couldn’t have asked anything more from them. I’m just so grateful.

So, even though I gave you the long answer of why we cancelled our wedding, the short answer is because our hearts just weren’t in it anymore. We constantly felt like we were only going through with it to please our friends and family, and well, society.

I think when it comes to weddings society expects this grand finale of a fairytale wedding, but that’s not always the reality of it. There’s this unseen pressure that is put on newly engaged couples to seal the deal with this elaborate show. But for who? Friends and family shouldn’t care how you get married or what it looks it. What happened to the love between the married couple being the most important thing instead of the decorations, dress, and after party? To me, it seems like we’re putting on this so called “wedding” for society and not for ourselves. If social media or cameras didn’t exist would you still have the wedding that’s saved on your Pinterest board? And don’t even get me started about the money.

Weddings are supposed to be about sharing the love between two people with friends and family and I think society has ruined that for us. Yes, I understand some people stick to the traditional path and practice certain religious views. I also realize some couples are fortunate enough to have their weddings paid for, lessening some of the stress. This post isn’t a wedding bashing post. I’m sharing this because I don’t think I need to explain every detail to people as to why we didn’t have the “big” wedding.

I’m calling bullsh*t on this fairytale plan society has created and will continue to march to the beat of my own drum. And I don’t think I should be questioned for it.

So, while I could write out word for word on why we decided to cancel our big wedding (because it wasn’t an easy decision either), I don’t feel like I need to explain myself to everyone. Again, for those of you who are wedding planning, or already have gone through it, you know the amount of stress that comes with it. Mark and I didn’t believe the stress and chaos (that we endured) was worth our happiness, so we changed our plans. Simple as that! No matter what society, or friends and family say, at the end of the day you have to go with what’s going to make YOU happy. Society will forget about you in a day anyways and move onto judging someone else’s life. Moral of the story: follow your f*cking heart.


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