Second Trimester Survival Guide

Welcome to the second trimester where you’re supposed to be glowing, fully of energy, and rocking that cute little bump of yours. While that may not be the case for every woman, you’ve made it out of the first trimester so that’s something you should be proud of. Whether you feel like a million bucks or are still feeling sick and tired, I have compiled a list of products that will help you get through the second trimester.

This is part II in my little series on how to survive each trimester. For part I, surviving the first trimester, click here.

DISCLAIMER: Every woman is different, therefore some or all of these may not work for everyone. This is based off of my own experience and research. As always, ask your provider or professional if it is safe for you to use any of these remedies.

                    1. Pregnancy pillow

This is an item that some women love or strongly dislike. While it is definitely not needed, it’s nice to have as your belly grows. There are several different brands and multiple shapes and sizes. However, a standard body pillow or multiple regular pillows can support you in the same way. I linked the one I purchased off of Amazon with my first pregnancy.

2.  Belly butter/oil

I swear by this stuff! I used belly oil and butter everyday with my first and I do not have one stretch mark. I continued to use it after I gave birth as well which helped tremendously. The skin on your belly will stretch a lot, so stretch marks or not, you will want this! Linked is a non-toxic brand that is my current favorite.

3. Prenatal vitamins

This may seem like an obvious one and I even mentioned it in my First Trimester Survival Guide, however, I suggested gummies in that post. Prenatals are important for your whole pregnancy but swallowing a large pill can suck in your first trimester so that’s why gummies were suggested. In your second trimester you should be able to stick with your original prenatals. I find the pills have better ingredients and meet the standards of a prenatal.

4. Water

Again, water may be hard to choke down while you’re in your first trimester but now is an important time to make sure you are drinking enough to keep you hydrated and then some. Water will also help settle any Braxton Hicks contractions you may experience later on in your second trimester. Sometimes I don’t want plain water so I like diluting a sports drink, like Body Armor, to my water for electrolytes and taste!

5. Start your baby registry

Now is a good time to start your baby registry. Chances are if you are finding out the gender you may wait start it until then. If you already know or plan to keep everything gender neutral then let the fun begin! (A baby registry must-have post is coming shortly). My favorite place to register is Babylist.

6. Purchase some maternity clothing

You won’t need too many pieces of maternity clothing just yet but you’ll notice your clothes will start to fit a little tighter or your jeans won’t button up. Pick out a few staple pieces that fit you now and can last you through the end of your pregnancy. You can always purchase more later on.

*TIP: use a hair tie or rubber band around your button of your pants. This will give them more stretch, so you can wear your normal jeans a little longer.

7. Purchase a belly band

This goes hand in hand with maternity clothing, but I felt like it needed its’ own mention. If you don’t like the rubber band trick, belly bands are the next best thing. It goes over the top of your pants and belly to extend the life of your pre-pregnancy bottoms.

8. Pregnancy/birth/postpartum books and education

If you are someone who likes to be informed and educated, now is the time to open those pregnancy and birth books you bought.

9. Childbirth class

This isn’t something that is needed but is highly recommended. You can sign up for a class at your local hospital or birth center. In this class they will go over labor and birth expectations and provide you will useful information to help you feel better prepared.

10. Hire a doula

I may be a little biased but hiring a doula has been hands down one of the best decisions I ever made. I didn’t have one with my first and I wish I did. If you haven’t hired one already, finding a doula you trust in the second trimester will allow you to build a connection with her and give you plenty of time to become better informed. The support and education doulas offer is outstanding and worth every penny.

Share your thoughts with me! Comment below or head to my Instagram page (@iamdevonjade)! 

XOXO,

D.J.

First Trimester Survival Guide

If you have ever been pregnant, or are even thinking about having kids, then you most likely have wondered how bad the first trimester really is and how you’ll get through it. I am here to tell you that every woman is different but it’s better to be prepared than to be sick and hopeless.

I wouldn’t call myself an expert, but now after being pregnant two times (three if you count my angel baby), I feel like I got a handle on how to ease that first trimester illness.

Below you will find my top eleven must haves to survive that dreaded first trimester.

DISCLAIMER: Every woman is different, therefore some or all of these may not work for everyone. This is based off of my own experience and research. As always, ask your provider or a professional if it is safe for you to use any of these remedies.

 

                    1. Ginger lemon tea

I learned really quick to keep ginger tea on hand when I was pregnant with my first. I swear by ginger and its magical healing properties to subside and take away nausea. I prefer to add lemon to my ginger tea as it helps take away the nausea even more and makes it easier to drink (if you don’t like ginger). Here is my favorite brand.

 

                    1. Peppermint essential oil

You all know I swear by my essential oils. I remember when I was pregnant with Jasper I would not leave the house without peppermint oil in my purse. Simply smelling this oil always did the trick when I was in a pinch. I prefer to place a drop of it on my tongue as I found it to be the most effective. I use Young Living essential oils.

 

                    1. Preggie Pop Drops

These were an item I heard a lot about but never believed they worked until I gave them a try with my current pregnancy. I felt like I constantly needed to have something in my mouth, whether it was candy or gum, I couldn’t stand to be without it. I decided to try these and ya’ll, I went through a container in less than a week. Not only do they taste so good, but they temporarily relieved any nausea I had. I used them between meals or when I was busy with Jasper.

 

                      1. Gum

Before I discovered the magic of Preggie Pop Drops, I would chew gum constantly (and I still do). I prefer traditional mint flavored gum, but any flavor or your liking will do. It always helps with any heart burn, reflux, and that metallic taste women sometimes get in their mouth when pregnant.

 

                      1. B6 Vitamins

I researched the crap out of morning sickness remedies before I ever got pregnant. I hate feeling sick and I really hate vomit, so I was prepared to do anything to prevent it. I kept coming across B6 vitamins and how effective they were. So, after my own research, which I advise everyone else to do, I decided to give them a go. Best decision EVER. Your B vitamins get depleted when you become pregnant, specifically B6, causing you to become nauseous mixed with all of the hormonal changes. I took no more than 100mg a day.

 

                      1. Gummy prenatals

When you’re nauseous and/or throwing up the last thing you want to do is swallow a horse pill. I know I sucked at this in my first trimester. I resorted to gummies instead and I will never go back. I prefer the OLLY brand because the serving size is two, so I would take one in the morning and one at night. Once any and all morning sickness was gone I switched back to my original ones in pill form.

 

                      1. Heating pad

I know there is a lot of controversial conversation on heating pads and pregnancy but again, please research this for yourself. It is safe as long as your body temperature doesn’t rise. This saved me so many nights when I was awake feeling so sick. I’d sip on some ginger lemon tea and lay my heating pad over my stomach.

 

                    1. Eating what you can, frequently

Chances are you will have strong aversions to foods you used to love and crave only specific things. That’s okay! Listen to your body! Whatever you can stomach and keep down, eat it and eat about every two hours (assuming it’s a snack or small meal). Eating before you get out of bed in the morning helps too. I would keep a box of plain Cheerios by my bed to snack on throughout the night and in the morning.

 

                    1. Sleep, sleep, and more sleep

Easier said than done, I know. Making sure I got plenty of rest is what always kept me going. With my first, I would take a long nap every afternoon after work and then go to bed at a decent time. With this current pregnancy, I would nap when Jasper went down for his first nap in the morning. Rest when you can, it doesn’t have to be a nap.

 

                      1. Exercise

The last thing you probably want to do is exercise, but trust me on this one, it helps. Even going for a walk or doing some stretches goes a long way. It subsides any nausea and gives you energy.

 

                      1. Get outside

Fresh air always made me feel better and it still does even if I’m not pregnant. Going for a walk, opening a window, or sitting outside always helped take my mind off feeling crappy.

I hope this helps any of you mamas out there! Please feel free to share what worked for you during your pregnancy!

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XOXO,

D.J.

5 Lessons I Learned in My First Year as A Mom

I can remember talking about having children with Mark very early on in our relationship. We knew as soon as we got married we wanted to start a family. Once I got pregnant I continued to fantasize about the mom I would be and what life would be like after having a baby. I envisioned this beautiful, happy life where myself and kids were almost always happy. I was a “cool” mom. I did all the fun things with a smile on my face and thrived at staying at home with my baby. The truth is I felt like that was robbed from me and I didn’t know how to adjust.

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I am writing this blog post to show mamas, new and old, that you don’t just have to survive motherhood, especially the first year. There is so much talk about how motherhood is nothing but non-stop, messes everywhere, and running on exhaustion and coffee. While some days that may be true, motherhood is so much more than that. So, if you’re a new mama, don’t let those memes and negative talk scare you. For you seasoned mamas, remember not to get caught up in the mundane tasks of motherhood.

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As women I believe we all have these expectations of how we will raise our kids and the kind of mom we want to be, assuming you want kids that is! Once you get pregnant your views may change a little bit, but ultimately you still fantasize what your new life will look like. I know I did (and sometimes still do). The thing is when we put too big of expectations on anything, we tend to get let down. Of course, it is healthy to have goals and a basic understanding of how you want to parent, but if there is anything I learned in this first year of motherhood it is this…

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5 Lessons I Learned

in My First Year as A Mom

Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

I remember feeling like I had to do it all because I was the only one who could do it right. I was mama bear and I was the only one best for my baby. While those emotions and feelings are valid, you do not have to do it all. It may take some learning and training your mind but ask for help when you need it. Start small like asking a friend to watch the baby while you shower.

Don’t worry about what others are thinking, saying, or doing (and stand your ground).

Chances are you will feel like everyone is staring at you when you go on your first solo outing with you newborn. Can people tell I’m new at this? Do I look like I know what I’m doing? Do other moms know how I’m feeling? Meanwhile, there is another mama with a screaming toddler thinking the same thing. This applies to parenting advice and the choices you decide to make as a parent. Stand your ground, follow that mama instinct. You know what is best for your child so don’t let anyone tell you different. It’ll be hard at first to not let it get under your skin, but I promise it’ll become second nature. All of it will.

Don’t buy into the crap.

Figuratively and literally. Don’t buy into all of the old wives’ tales or what some acquaintance told you on Facebook. And also, don’t purchase all of the unnecessary stuff. I promise babies need less than we think they need.

Soak up every single second of motherhood.

This may seem like an obvious one but it’s important. As I mentioned when I started typing out this post, it’s easy to get caught up in the day to day craziness. Don’t let that stop you from soaking up your new life. The good, the bad, the messy, and everything in between, because one day your kids will be grown, and you’ll be asking yourself where has the time gone.

Love yourself harder than you ever thought you could.

It is so easy to pick apart your body after you give birth. It’s even easier to assume you’re failing as a mom and that you in fact don’t have it all together. After your baby is born, you are born again too, as a mother. There is always so much talk about how to care for a newborn, but what about the new mama? The mama who just had her second baby? Third baby? The list goes on. Somewhere along the way we as mothers get swept under the rug and neglected. Those first several months are a vulnerable time, so give yourself some grace. Take whatever time you need, ask for help, cry- let it out, and most importantly give yourself a hug and remind yourself you are amazing.

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XOXO,

D.J.

Baby Devine Number Two’s Gender Reveal

By now you all most likely know we are having a baby BOY! This means I will be a boy mama of TWO little boys come the fall. We could not be more excited!I had a strong feeling this second baby was another boy. In the very beginning I had some suspicions it might be a girl but as time went on my gut feeling was so strong that it was a boy. Turns out I was right, again! Mama’s intuition knows best I guess! I also feel like it’s only natural to assume your second baby is the opposite of your first. I know a lot of you guys guessed it would be a girl. Either way, we are thrilled and could not be more anxious to meet him!IMG_7064

Baby Devine Number Two’s Gender Reveal

For our gender reveal we originally planned to do something small and simple (like what we did with Jasper), but COVID-19 had other plans. I was naïve and hoped all of this pandemic crap would fade away by May and we could have our gender reveal. Here we are in June and are just now seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. So, with COVID controlling a lot of our decisions, we had to switch gears. We obviously couldn’t have friends or family present, but we wanted to still make it special. Me, more than my husband lol, wanted to go all out since we were forced to practice social distancing. I knew I wanted it recorded like last time and I knew I wanted cute photos to remember the day by too. Well, I got almost what I wanted lol.IMG_6520I decided to go for the “balloons out of a box” to reveal the gender, but with a twist. I wanted not only colored balloons indicating we were having a boy, but also foil letters spelling it out, plus blue confetti powder cannons. Per usual, I headed to Pinterest for inspiration. I came up with exactly what I wanted. Ordered all the items needed and patiently waited for everything to arrive.I really wanted to announce sooner rather than later because it was so hard not to accidentally blurt out “BOY” on social media. However, we were limited to when we could do it because of the weather. Every day for the next week it was raining or windy and the reveal had to be done outside since we were setting off colored powder cannons. So, we chose the last day before the rain was supposed to come and man that was a mistake! It was cold and windy. We had to literally bring bricks with us to hold down our tripod and pray that nothing ripped off or out of the box. Not to mention, the hassle it was to set everything up. It’s not as easy as it looks to shove multiple balloons in a box and have them pop out looking all pretty, lol.

So, despite having everything against us, we managed to make it work. I’m not 100% happy with the photos but the experience makes me laugh. Poor Jasper probably thinks we are crazy parents (and we are lol).I know a lot of people are already asking if we have names in mind. The short answer is no. Ya’ll know the hassle we went through trying to find a name for Jasper, so we decided not to even think about names until the third trimester or the last month of my pregnancy. We changed Jasper’s name at least four times until we decided on Jasper, and even then we didn’t commit to his name until he was born. For me boy names are hard, and I don’t like many. When we do choose a name, however, we will not be sharing it until his birth.IMG_6526I cannot wait to continue on this journey with ya’ll. Any mamas of more than one boy please share all your tips- and any mamas of two or more tell me your secrets!  

Share your thoughts with me! Comment below or head to my Instagram page (@iamdevonjade)! 

XOXO,

D.J.

  Everything we used for the reveal will be linked below.Colored balloons: Sage Green Ivory Chrome Gold BalloonsNavy BalloonsLight Blue Balloons

Foil letter balloons: BOY

“Sweet Baby” banner: Sweet Baby Boy Glitter Banner

Confetti powder cannons: Blue Cannons

I’m Half-Way There! My 20-week Pregnancy Update

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Today I am celebrating being half-way through my pregnancy! However, I am not celebrating because I don’t like being pregnant but because I survived growing another human while taking care of a toddler, ha-ha! In all seriousness, it’s a big deal when you reach that halfway point! By now most of the morning sickness, if any, is gone, energy levels are back up, there’s a little bump poking out, and pregnancy is mostly enjoyable!

I officially have about two months until my third trimester and roughly forty weeks until we meet our newest addition, so I felt like it was the perfect time to reflect on my pregnancy thus far. As always, here is my 20-week update when I was pregnant with Jasper.

My 20-week Pregnancy Update

So, what does being twenty weeks pregnant look like the second time around? Let me tell ya, it is not much different than my first and I am beyond grateful for that. If you read my post on my first trimester then you know I had very little to no nausea whatsoever, but I was exhausted. By now at the half way point any and all nausea is completely gone with the exception of if I wait too long to eat in the mornings. I have all of my energy back and am feeling like the Energizer Bunny most days. However, chasing around a toddler definitely wears me out. I feel like this pregnancy, and baby, are SO low key. My pregnancy with Jasper was pretty chill but with the distraction of a toddler and knowing what to (somewhat) expect I am getting through it with more ease. I don’t feel the need to research every little thing, I recognize certain signs and symptoms that arise, and I feel very confident and prepared overall. (But ask me how prepared I feel once this babe comes, lol). Also, studying for all of my different doula certifications help. Not to mention I hired a doula for myself this time around. Jasper is also super sweet and loves giving “his baby” kisses and cuddles. He’ll lift up my shirt and lay his head on my belly and you guys, it melts my freaking heart.

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As far as this new babe’s health and sex, well you will know that VERY soon. Aside from knowing the sex, this baby is perfectly healthy! Something I haven’t really touched on in detail is being monitored for my placenta. I talked a little bit about it in my pregnancy announcement post and a little bit on my Instagram, but if you want to know where it all started read Jasper Thomas’ Birth Story (pt. I) and Jasper Thomas’ Birth Story (pt. II). I plan on doing a full blog post on this issue because there’s just SO much information I want to get out there and share, but it’s a lot so I want to organize my thoughts first. Long story short, after I delivered Jasper I had retained placenta which caused me to need a D&C to remove the remaining tissue. The doctor did not get all of the placenta out, again, causing me to have another D&C at six weeks postpartum. It was absolute hell. So, fast forward to this pregnancy and any other future pregnancies, I am considered high risk because it could happen again. There are many risks involved at the time of delivery so that is why I am considered high risk, but like I said, I’ll save all that for another day. For now, I am seen every four weeks for an ultrasound at Maternal Fetal Medicine to monitor where my placenta is. It has been extremely emotional because it brings up the trauma I went through with Jasper’s birth and is obviously scary for future births. It isn’t something I ever thought would happen to me and I really have been trying to stay positive and hope for a healthy all-natural labor and delivery.

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On top of all of that craziness, there’s COVID-19 of course. That in itself has been such a whirlwind. Where do I even start? I truly wasn’t affected by it (pregnancy wise) until I went for my anatomy scan. By the time I went for my scan absolutely no one was allowed with me and masks were mandatory. So, you have an important appointment to begin with and then you have to go alone during a pandemic. Before that appointment I never really had to leave my house, so I never had to face the reality of it. It then altered our gender reveal plans and we had to get a little more creative, but I am hopeful it’ll all be passed us once September rolls around. To any other mamas going through this, especially those who had to deliver, I see you. It’s not easy growing and birthing a child but we are doing it during a pandemic and that is freaking scary but so empowering. What a story to tell your babe!

Despite everything going on, I am just grateful to be able to experience growing another human. It truly is something I will never take for granted no matter how hard it is. As always, thank you for supporting me and following along my crazy journeys.

 

 

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XOXO,

D.J.

Can You Guess Baby Devine Number Two’s Gender? Predicting gender based off of old wives tales

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Hey friends! I thought it would be fun to do another blog post where we guess the gender of Baby Devine Number Two based on old wives tales! If you can remember, I did this when I was pregnant with Jasper and it ended up being correct. Here is the post if you’re curious! Obviously, these are only old wives tales and aren’t a for sure way to predict the sex of your baby, but it’s fun to do either way!

Can You Guess Baby Devine Number Two’s Gender?

 

Heart beat is above 140bpm it is a girl, anything below is a boy.

Each and every time I’ve heard the heartbeat it has been above 140bpm (around 150-160bpm)! It has only been in the 140’s a few times.

 

If your skin is glowing and your hair looks it’s straight out of Pantene commercial you’re having a boy, if your hair and skin has been anything but glowing, you’re having a girl.

This one is split 50/50. In my first trimester my skin was pretty bad, but that’s to be expected. Since then it has been looking better aside from a little bit of red pigmentation on my right cheek.

 

If you’re carrying low, it’s a boy, if you’re carrying high it’s a girl.

This one I just never believe. I have a long torso, so I naturally carry low. However, this pregnancy I feel like the baby itself is super low.

 

Craving sweets, it’s girl, craving salty it’s a boy.

To be honest, I do not have any specific cravings! In my first trimester and very beginning of the second, I loved sweets, but I remember that being the case when I was pregnant with Jasper so I’m thinking it’s just a first trimester thing for me.

 

If you’re carrying most of your weight out front you’re having a boy, if you’re carrying your weight all around, you’re probably having a girl.

This is another that I don’t think is an accurate guess because it just depends on your body type. I carry all in front though.

 

Cold feet mean a boy is on the way, warm feet or no change expect a girl.

My feet are always cold, even when I’m not pregnant so I am assuming girl?!

 

If you have severe morning sickness you are having a girl. They say girls give their mom’s trouble right from the start.

I am happy to say I was not that sick!

 

If your spouse has gained weight, it’s a girl.

I mean I feel like at this time it is too early to tell?? He eats pretty much what I eat, and I haven’t gained any weight yet.

 

If you get severe headaches you’re having a boy, no real headaches it’s a girl.

I have head headaches for sure!

 

If you naturally fall asleep on your left side, it’s a boy.

I can only fall asleep on my left side!

 

That’s all for now! I’m sure I can find plenty more wives’ tales, but I think ya’ll can make a valid guess!

The verdict based off of these old wife’s tales: BOY!!!(again, lol)

In just a few short days we will know for sure, so stay tuned and thanks for playing along!

 

 

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XOXO,

D.J.

My First Trimester: The Second Time Around

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Here we are again! My first trimester, the second time around! I went back to my blog post I wrote about my first trimester with Jasper, here you can find Part I and Part II, just to compare, and I realized I published it around the same time I am publishing this one, lol. Not much has changed!

My First Trimester: The Second Time Around

So, by now you know I am pregnant with my second little babe! I wrote all about it here. To be quite honest, I thought my first trimester the second time around would be a lot worse. If you can remember, my first trimester with Jasper was a breeze… well my whole pregnancy was. I had little morning sickness and overall handled it pretty well! Everyone says expect each following pregnancy to feel worse, but I have to disagree.

I found out I was pregnant at around four weeks. At that time, I had no symptoms aside from these little tiny bumps I get on my upper back and shoulders. I also had some implantation bleeding. I actually thought this was my period. However, something prompted me to take a test and the smallest double line showed up. So naturally I went to Target to get a digital test and I was in fact pregnant! My husband was out of town, so I had to keep this secret all to myself. I really wanted to tell him in person. But, if you know me, you know nothing can go as planned! The very next day our plumbing decided to back and I couldn’t use our water; including our sinks, showers, or toilets. Four weeks pregnant with an infant and two dogs and no plumbing?! Yeah, right! This had me driving three hours to my mom’s house, so we could have running water. I ended up frantically calling my mom and telling her the news.

The very next day my husband came home, and we got our pipes fixed! I, of course, rushed home because I was dying to tell him the news. I once again tried to get a cute little video captured of me telling him, but I always get so nervous, so it didn’t turn out great. I will share it via Instagram if you want to check it out though. He was thrilled of course! We couldn’t believe we were having another baby!!!

Anyways, getting to the point. Around six weeks the exhaustion started to hit. Let me tell you, being pregnant with an almost toddler at the time is no joke. I was beyond exhausted. I thought I was tired when I was pregnant with Jasper, ha! Every day I questioned how I would get through another day. Luckily at the time Jasper was still taking two naps a day so during his first nap I was able to get a nap in too. That was what saved me most days. On top of the beginning morning sickness and exhaustion, Jasper was turning one and we were throwing his first birthday party when I was about seven weeks pregnant. A little tip- do not throw a birthday party for your child while in the depths of the first trimester. It was miserable (for me) and looking back I wish we would have celebrated with just our family. However, I am grateful we have the pictures to remember that time.

Like I briefly stated in the beginning, I wasn’t all that sick. I remember feeling a lot sicker with Jasper. I had my moments and pretty much kept Preppy Pop Drops with me at all times, but the nausea only last about three to four weeks. After about the ninth or tenth week the nausea started to subside and would only come every now and again. I would say the extreme tiredness lasted longer than the morning sickness. I had an aversion to most veggies and coffee again. If you remember from my pregnancy with Jasper I had a huge sensitivity to the smell of our refrigerator. That was a struggle again the second time around, but not nearly as bad. Maybe everything seemed a lot less because I was chasing around a toddler but no matter the reason I am grateful for another easy first trimester.

Once I started feeling better I couldn’t wait to share the news with everyone! This time around the bump has been much harder to hide. I am about the same size, maybe a little bigger, than I was with Jasper at this time, but it got bigger much faster. I also was coming out of my first trimester just when the pandemic became bad. The weekend I announced is the first weekend we were quarantined. We actually had to change our announcement because of everything. Mark ended up getting called into work and I was stuck at my mom’s with Jasper. Things may have gone differently but it just felt good to get the news out. I am glad I wasn’t in my first trimester during quarantine because I feel like I would have been miserable!

Overall, I can say my experience in the first trimester has been relatively the same as it was with Jasper. Most days I have to pinch myself because I forget I’m pregnant, but this time it’s because I am chasing around a toddler! It’s going to be a crazy several months and by the fall it’ll get even crazier, but I would be lying if I said I couldn’t wait for the challenge!

 

 

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XOXO,

D.J.

I’m Pregnant…AGAIN!

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I’m Pregnant…AGAIN!

SURPRISE! I am pregnant, AGAIN! If you truly know me, then maybe this isn’t a surprise to you because you most likely know I want one million babies. For everyone else, yes this was definitely planned and on purpose. Mark and I decided we want all of our children close in age and to have them all at once for several reasons. I know there is a lot of differing opinions on when and how close together to have your children, but this is what we as a couple and family want!

I am beyond happy to finally share this news with you because it has been so hard to hide. I found out when I was about four weeks pregnant. Any of my Instagram followers remember when my sewage pipes got clogged? I actually found out the day before, ha! Hence, the slight panic when I couldn’t use the bathroom at all. I have to say this was harder to keep to myself than when I was pregnant with Jasper. I wasn’t sick all that much compared to my first pregnancy, but I definitely had my moments. The exhaustion however was insane. I will write out a whole post on my first trimester, but it wasn’t anything like I thought it would be the second time around! Thankfully. Yes, we are finding out the gender and no, we don’ have any names picked out, lol.

For me, even though this pregnancy was planned, it still came as a surprise because we didn’t know how easy it would be to get pregnant a second time. After all, I am still nursing Jasper, but I have had my period back since three months postpartum. On top of that, after having two D&C’s within 6 weeks of one another there was risk of scar tissue which can cause fertility problems. I hear so many stories of other mamas trying for a second baby and not having any luck and it definitely started to get to me! Emotionally, I felt ready after what felt like forever of not knowing if I would ever “feel ready”, but physically I had no idea what my body had in mind. Like any of my pregnancies I will never take this for granted. I am so grateful it happened as fast as it did.

Going into this pregnancy I immediately knew I wanted to do things a little differently, specifically toward the end when it comes to labor and delivery. There was so much I didn’t know when I was pregnant with Jasper, partially because I didn’t do the reading and research I intended to do, but also because there is SO much information. While knowledge isn’t power, my studies as a doula have really opened my eyes to pregnancy and child birth. Without going into too much detail, I have decided to go with a midwife this time around as well as hire a doula. I researched all of the hospitals in my area and after speaking with a few mamas who gave birth in Delaware, including my doula, I feel as though I made the right decisions on where to give birth. After what I went through with Jasper’s birth I have to give birth in a hospital from here on out as I am now considered “high-risk”. If you aren’t caught up to speed with his birth story check out Part I and Part II. In the beginning of March, I had my first appt and the nurse sat down with me for over an hour. I have never received that kind of treatment and I wish for every pregnant woman to experience that. I also had my first ultrasound and will be getting any further scans done at Maternal Fetal Medicine. To read my pregnancy announcement blog post from Jasper, click here.

Thank you so much for all of your kind words and love. It really is appreciated and nothing ever goes unnoticed. I will be sure to keep posting updates and sharing my journey all over again. Love ya’ll so much!

 

 

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XOXO,

D.J.

Jasper is ONE Year Old!

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The day has officially come. My not-so-little baby boy is a whole year old! I have been saying his first year of life how I simply cannot believe how fast time has been flying by, and this is no different. To be honest, six months ago I would have cried at the thought of Jasper turning one. Fast forward to today, I am feeling much better about my sweet baby getting bigger.

This blog post marks a milestone in my journey of motherhood. I have documented all of the big and little moments and I’m so happy I did because I will forever have these memories to look back on. This is last (monthly) update I will be sharing until any future babes join our family. This blog post is also proof I survived my first year of motherhood. Kidding. But really. I hope you all enjoyed following along on this crazy journey and will use these monthly milestones as a reminder of all of the sweet moments parenthood has to offer.

Jasper is ONE Year Old!

Now, let’s jump into Jasper Thomas at twelve months old! Rewinding back to around ten months, Jasper went through a huge growth spurt. This is also when he popped his first few teeth! Since then, Jasper has about five teeth total with no signs of anymore coming at the moment. He has mastered pulling himself up and standing. However, he is still perfecting his confidence to stand unassisted. Jasper hasn’t shown much interest in walking (like his mama) but recently loves to “walk” holding someone’s hands. While so many kids his age and younger are already standing and/or walking I have no worries or concerns our little guy will be joining them in no time!

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His favorite word is “mama”. He is working really hard on a few other words but prefers babbling much more. Jasper waves bye, yet we are still working on waving hi! He signs for “milk”, “more”, and sometimes “all done”. He is eating up a storm which is a huge improvement in the last few months. I also am still nursing him about four times a day! We don’t plan on stopping anytime soon either!

Currently, Jasper LOVES any and all animals. He loves playing with his many toy animals, listening to the sounds they make, and of course seeing them in real life! He especially loves dogs and puppies! He loves anything that keeps him busy; like building with his blocks, Legos, and different puzzles and toys from his panda crate.

This year has been the hardest, yet sweetest, year of my life and I truly mean that. I know there’s a lot of talk out there saying you lose yourself after having a baby and while in the moment it may feel true, it’s not. You never really “lose yourself”, your priorities change and it takes some getting used to and figuring out to get back in a routine.

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I hope, if anything, from reading these blog posts you see there IS good in the ugly, but we ALL struggle. This will sound like a broken record, but the first year fly’s by so soak it up mama!

 

 

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XOXO,

D.J.

Jasper’s 11 Month Update

The official countdown is on! My baby boy is eleven months old, and this time next month he will be a toddler! How does that even happen?! I am truly baffled! I am experiencing all the emotions.

Jasper’s 11 Month Update

In true Jasper fashion, he made another huge developmental leap this month! He has grown so much! He went from having barely one tooth to having almost four teeth! He is very close to standing all on his own like a big and rarely ever sits still. Talk about high energy! J has finally begun to really enjoy eating. While he still prefers his breastmilk over most things, he loves to explore his food and feed himself. I have no doubt by the time he turns one he will be a pro at eating.

Jasper is also back to hating his car seat. He screams unless he’s sleeping, just like he did when he was teeny tiny. With that said, car rides are not fun for this mama, but we are working on it! His sleep is also slowly improving. While he doesn’t always sleep through the night, he puts himself to bed all by himself and nurses only twice, unless sick or in need of extra comfort. This was a huge challenge for us so I am super proud of both myself and him.

J’s new favorite thing to do is dance and it is literally the cutest thing ever. I could sit and watch him dance all day long! Aside from dancing, he’s a big talker like his mama and dada.

While it saddens me to know my tiny baby is growing into a little boy, I am also so proud of him. I know this last month of babyhood will be very emotional. However, I have zero doubts in toddlerhood he’ll be just a sweet!

Until next time, when Jasper is ONE!

 

 

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XOXO,

D.J.