Hey friends and happy Friday! I hope you had a great week and congrats for making it to the weekend! Remember a couple months ago when I published a blog post discussing the topic of over exercising? If not, go read it here. Well, today I want to talk about a topic that goes hand in hand with over exercising; it is what I like to call “food obsessed”. You’re probably thinking, “hell yeah, I love food! I’m a major foodie!!” No, not that type of food obsessed. I’m talking about the unhealthy relationship with food many of us, including myself, have suffered from.
If you aren’t immersed into the health and wellness world then maybe you have no idea what I’m even talking about, or maybe you love health and fitness and still have no clue. Either way, it’s an important topic that I want to address.
More times than not I see and hear a lot of women (and men!) share their stories and experiences on their relationships with food/dieting/living a healthy lifestyle. And more times than not, it starts out as something innocent, wanting to live a healthier life, but it turns into an unhealthy relationship with food or even an eating disorder. I’ve been there, done that, experienced a majority of it. No, I was not completely suffering from an eating disorder like anorexia or bulimia, but I definitely had my fair share of months of binge eating and obsessively controlling my diet. (DISCLAIMER: This post is not to shame anyone or diminish any eating disorder).
Just like how I mentioned in my over exercising post, eating and fueling your body should be fun and not something you stress over. Bottom line, you need food to survive and you should never feel bad about giving your body what it needs. Unfortunately, society makes us form these thoughts that we should look a certain way and in order to obtain that look we should over exercise and starve ourselves. I am here to tell you, you don’t have to listen to society. Listen to YOU and your body.
So maybe now you’re questioning yourself, thinking you may have an unhealthy relationship with food; chances are if you don’t ever stress about what you’re putting into your body you have a healthy relationship with your diet…that’s something to be proud of, keep it up! You’ll know when you have an unhealthy relationship with food because it is something you think about every second of everyday. What you’ll have for breakfast, lunch, dinner, the number of calories in each meal, the time of day you will eat, eating too much or too little, the list goes on…
Yes, it is important to take note of what you’re putting into your body, and yes, it’s okay to think about what you’ll be cooking for dinner when you wake up. It’s NOT okay to stress yourself out for eating an extra bite of a croissant with your breakfast, or stressing over having a sandwich instead of a salad for lunch because it’s ‘too many carbs’. If you’re feeling guilty and ashamed when you finish eating, chances are you aren’t enjoying your meals. It shouldn’t be that way, it doesn’t have to be that way and sadly, there are way too many people who are living a life like this. And I use to be one of them.
Before I continue, I want to first acknowledge and give anyone who is trying to live a healthier life, a big pat on the back, kudos to you! Seriously! It takes a lot of confidence and motivation to make healthy changes! But I want you to make a promise to yourself right now. Promise to make these healthy lifestyle changes for YOU because YOU want to take care of your body, not because society tells you otherwise. Promise to fill your body with nourishing foods. And promise to never hate yourself for eating what you want. With society constantly changing, science always advancing, and social media/internet being the main source of information these days, it is easy to fall into the ‘food obsessed’ trap. Just like everything else in life, moderation is key. You can be healthy AND enjoy ice cream and cookies too. You can show interest in health and wellness and still have days where you indulge in that extra slice of pizza on a Friday night with your friends. Don’t let society, the people you follow on social media, friends or family dictate what you choose to eat and not to eat. Of course, listen to your doctor if your health is at risk, but at the end of the day, YOU and YOUR body knows what is best so listen to it.
I hope this post help shed some light on this topic or provided comfort in anyone going through disordered eating patterns- you are NOT alone and you CAN get through this. Again, this post wasn’t meant to glamorize, diminish, or offend anyone suffering from an eating disorder. This is a serious issue and it won’t be solved unless we start talking about it.
What are your thoughts on this serious topic? Maybe you’re like me and have experienced it firsthand or maybe you have a friend or family member who has gone through something similar. Share your thoughts with me and lets shed some light on this topic! Comment on her on my Instagram! (@iamdevonjade)